Life without good friends is like a body without soul – it loses its meaning and charm. Friends share our joys and sorrows. We can express feelings of our heart to a good friend. A good friend is our best guide in crisis. One of the greatest philosophers of the world Emerson called good friend a master piece of Nature.
Children, adults, politicians, writers, journalists, clerks, labourers or businessmen all need friends to make a career and enjoy life. But having a circle of valuable friends is not an easy task. Making friends or influencing people, in fact, is an art and like other arts it can be learnt.
How to Start a Conversation
Many people want to talk to others but it is very difficult for them to start a conversation. They get somewhat nervous and sentences don’t come up in their minds. Consequently they are unable to strike friendship with others. Such people should keep some opening sentences in mind. After some time it becomes easy for them to strike a conversation and establish a bond of friendly relations.
Power Of Admiration
Everybody loves praise and recognition for his/her talent and work. Even the kings loved to surround themselves with flatterers. Poets wrote songs admiring their kingdom and good qualities. Today’s politicians also like the company of those people who can boost their ego by praising them to the skies. Prominent figures may enjoy flattery but a common person needs genuine praise.
Every human being has a unique quality and he or she wants to be appreciated for it. Unfortunately people are so busy in their own affairs that they hardly have any time to understand or admire these qualities. In case you are wise enough to spare some time and admire people genuinely, you will be rewarded with a positive response from the person whom you admire. Most of the people understand the difference between real and fake admiration. So be genuine in appreciation.
Have Something Good to Tell
If you want to earn the goodwill of God distribute happiness not sorrows. People in today’s industrialised world are already full of sorrows and tension. They need some fun. So whenever a person approaches them with a sullen face he is generally ignored. Nobody is interested in wasting time on him. People avoid a person who always has something bad to tell. If you want to be welcomed by the people paste a label of good news on your forehead. It means you must have something good to say to people.
Chatterboxes – the persons who talks too much – always bores others. They only want to speak and don’t want to listen to anybody. Good listeners are welcomed everywhere. A human being has a tendency to express and find audience for him. So if you have any desire to make friends learn to keep patience, and listen carefully. You won’t have any dearth of good friends.
Understand the Feelings
Hurt the feeling of anybody and you sow the seed of enmity. So be careful with your words and choose them carefully while talking to others. Everybody has something to say that is close to heart and he/she is hungry to find someone to whom it can be confided. If you want to make friends respect the feelings of other people. Understand them with total sincerity . Share their feeling of joy and sorrow. This habit will open for you the door of friendships.
Be Genuinely Interested
Develop genuine interest in people. If you are just interested in selfish motives and have no regard for the desires and hobbies of others then you will never be able to make friends. Talk about their favourite TV/movie star or player. Discuss about the game they like, the hobby they enjoy or the political party they favour. If a person thinks that he is valued he feels happy and enthusiastic.
Find Common Interests
Birds of the same feather fly together. Common interests create a bond between two persons. Find out some common interests between you and the person whom you want to befriend. To have knowledge about common interests sometimes you have to talk to a person on various topics. You will soon have an idea regarding areas of similar tastes and a way to strike friendship.
Help to Achieve Goals
Goals of a person are most dear to his heart. A person has to struggle very hard in life to achieve his goals. He always wants to surround himself with persons who can help or guide him to achieve the goals. So if you know about the aims and goals of a person and find a way to help him you can win his friendship easily. And be sure, it is mostly a very intimate and durable friendship. Moreover helping someone achieve his or her goals is a sacred task.
Control Your Emotions
Some people are slaves to their emotions. It is very difficult for them especially to control angry outbursts. We can’t make good friends or maintain them for long if we are one of those slaves. Though it is not easy to have a reign over our emotions yet we can learn to control them if we take a pledge today. Regular emotional outburst erode the harmony of friendship. We can’t maintain any good relationship for long if we constantly hurt each other. Only those persons have a large circle of friends who know how to control their emotions.
Value of Small Gifts
The best method of excellent communication is a small gift. Whenever a person receives a gift, given to him or her with a smiling face and a warm heart, it always leaves a lasting impression. Who doesn’t like to receive gifts? A gift is a sure-fire method to melt the blocks of communication. It makes a person receptive. On important occasion send a greeting card, SMS or just give a call. Gift and greetings are the oldest and the sweetest cord of social relationships.
Love is blind; Friendship closes its eyes.
Anger is the fluid love bleeds when cut.
Some people come into our lives and quickly go. Some stay for awhile and leave footprints on our hearts. And we are never, ever the same.
If you judge people, you have no time to love them.
There’s the people you’ve known forever. Who like…know you…in this way. That other people can’t. Because they’ve seen you change. They’ve let you change.
Shared joy is double joy. Shared sorrow is half sorrow.
The key is to get to know people and trust them to be who they are. Instead, we trust people to be who we want them to be – and when they’re not, we cry.
Your approval is neither required nor desired. But I will take your acceptance.
‘Tis better to have loved and lost,
Than never to have loved at all.
Absence is to love what wind is to fire; it extinguishes the small, it enkindles the great.
No one worth possessing
Can be quite possessed.
Love all, trust a few, do wrong to none.
No one needs love more than someone who doesn’t deserve it.
No one can be happy without a friend, nor be sure of a friend until he is unhappy.
It is so rare…to find a complete person, with a soul, a heart and an imagination; so rare for characters as ardent and restless as ours to meet and to be matched together, that I hardly know how to tell you what happiness it gives me to know you.
Friendship involves many things, but above all, the power of going out of one’s self and appreciating what is noble and loving in another.
We have something special that no one, no distance, no time can take away…we have each other.
The reward for love is the experience of loving.
The difficulty is not so great to die for a friend, as to find a friend worth dying for.
When love is not madness, it is not love.
Love is what still goes on when you’re not horny.
Love does not die easily. It is a living thing. It thrives in the face of all of life’s hazards, save one – neglect.
These violent delights have violent ends.
I love a hand that meets my own with a grasp that causes some sensation.
It bears all things, believes all things, endures all things. Love never fails.
So faith, hope, love remain, these three; but the greatest of these is love.
So, lively brisk old fellow, don’t let age get you down.
White hairs or not, you can still be a lover.
Experience is in the fingers and the head. The heart is inexperienced.
If you’re lonely
And need a friend
And troubles seem like
They never end,
Just remember to keep the Faith,
And Love will be there to Light the Way
Anytime you need a friend,
I will be here.
You’ll never be alone again,
So don’t you fear.
Even if you’re miles away,
I’m by your side.
So don’t you ever be lonely.
Love will make it alright.
When the shadows are closing in
And your Spirit deminishing,
Just remember you’re not alone,
And Love will be there
To Guide you Home.
If you just believe in me,
I will Love you endlessly.
Take my hand.
Take me into your Heart.
I’ll be there forever, baby.
I won’t let go.
I’ll never let go.